Why Can't I Stop Healing?

Episode 5: Why Can’t I Stop Healing? The Addiction to Trauma Work & the Identity of Being Broken
In this eye-opening episode of The Trauma Queen, Jessica Ella unpacks the little-known but deeply relatable phenomenon of becoming addicted to trauma healing itself. If you're constantly chasing the next self-help book, therapy session, or workshop—and still feeling like it's never enough—this episode will hit home.

We explore the three trauma-rooted reasons why so many brave women stay stuck in an endless cycle of self-improvement:

🔹 Unconscious Validation of Not Being Enough
When unresolved trauma, emotional wounds, and early abuse convince you that you are fundamentally broken, healing becomes a way to prove your worth. But the constant search can keep your identity wrapped in the belief that you’re never quite healed.

🔹 The Trap of Intellectualising Trauma
We dive into how using your mind to analyze, control, or avoid feelings is actually another trauma response—and how bypassing emotion keeps your trauma stuck. Jess shares what it really takes to stop overthinking and start truly feelingand releasing.

🔹 Addiction to Chaos and the ‘Healing Identity’
For many, telling and retelling their trauma stories becomes part of who they are. But staying in the healing loop can become its own trap. Jess vulnerably shares her own journey of shifting from a trauma-based identity to one rooted in joy, embodiment, and true thriving.

This is a must-listen episode for anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why can’t I stop healing?”

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