#44: Why Love Feels Unsafe After Trauma β Healing Triggers, Trust and Love Wounds
In this solo episode of The Trauma Queen podcast ποΈ I unpack one of the most painful and confusing patterns for survivors of trauma: why love feels unsafe even though we crave it.
Biologically we are wired for love, connection and community β€οΈ but when your earliest experiences of love were marked by complex trauma, sexual trauma, abuse or emotional neglect, your nervous system learns that love is pain. When the people who were meant to protect you also betrayed you, love becomes wired to equal fear, abandonment and suffering.
Inside this episode I share:
ππΌ Why betrayal trauma teaches the subconscious mind that love is unsafe
ππΌ How childhood emotional wounds create beliefs that love means abuse or self-sacrifice
ππΌ Why safe love can feel boring or even triggering after years of toxic patterns
ππΌ How trauma lives in the nervous system, keeping you in hypervigilance and mistrust
ππΌ The cycle of attraction to emotionally unavailable partners and why it repeats
ππΌ What healing looks like when you rewire your body and subconscious to finally hold safe love
If you have ever pulled away from love, sabotaged intimacy or felt like connection equals danger, you are not broken. You are triggered. And when you process trauma and rewire these beliefs, love becomes safe again.
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