#41: “Why Isn’t Your Dad in Jail?” Facing the System, Fear & What Justice Really Means

Why didn’t you take him to court?

Why isn’t he in jail?

This is the #1 question I get asked and in this raw, unfiltered episode of The Trauma Queen, I finally answer it.

I walk you through the terrifying reality behind this decision the years of threats, the suffocating fear, and the truth about what really happens when a survivor of sexual trauma dares to go up against their abuser… and the broken system built to protect them.

I open up about:

👉🏼 Why I did start the legal process and the moment I had to walk away to protect my nervous system, my safety, and my future

👉🏼 How long-term abuse, psychological torture, and fear of retaliation shaped my decision

👉🏼 What sentencing actually looks like for historic sexual abuse cases

👉🏼 Why speaking out, healing others, and changing the world has become my version of justice

This episode is for every survivor who’s ever been told what they should do. And for every person who’s never had to make that choice under threat.

Because justice isn’t one-size-fits-all and healing after complex trauma, emotional wounds, and abuse requires courage most people will never understand.

🎧 Listen now to hear the truth and why, sometimes, being brave means choosing your own path over the court’s.