Why Do I Care About Others Opinions More Than My Own?

Episode 11: Why Do I Care More About What Others Think? Trauma, Identity & the Need for Approval
In this deeply relatable episode of The Trauma Queen, Jessica Ella is joined by fellow healer and expert Stephy J for a soul-nourishing conversation about one of the most universal trauma patterns: placing other people’s opinions above your own.

Together, Jess and Steph explore how childhood trauma, emotional wounds, and experiences of abuse or conditional love shape your identity—teaching you that approval equals safety. If you constantly feel triggered by judgment, criticism, or fear of “getting it wrong,” this episode will help you see that it’s not weakness—it’s unhealed trauma doing its job to protect you.

✨ Inside this episode:

• The hidden trauma beneath external validation

• How your nervous system responds to rejection as a survival threat

• Real, raw stories from Jess and Steph about healing the “good girl” identity

• The difference between being liked… and being healed

• How to build true self-trust and shift into authentic self-approval

This is more than a chat—it’s a trauma-informed guide to reclaiming your power, honoring your truth, and finally breaking free from the subconscious pull to please, perform, and perfect.

💫 Ready to stop outsourcing your worth? Tune in, and then connect with Jess here: https://linktr.ee/jessellaainsworth