Why Do I Avoid Therapy? Even When I Have So Much Trauma

Episode 13: Why Do We Avoid Therapy? Trauma, Resistance & the Fear of Feeling Too Much
In this heartfelt episode of The Trauma Queen, Jessica Ella is joined by her partner Gav to unpack a question many secretly hold: “If I know therapy can help, why do I still avoid it?” Together, they explore how trauma, fear, and deeply rooted emotional wounds can make the idea of healing feel more terrifying than staying stuck.

Gav—once the go-to friend for advice and new to the world of deep healing—offers a raw, honest perspective on the common resistance to therapy, even when trauma is obvious. Through personal stories and real conversations, Jess and Gav explore how the fear of opening emotional “cans of worms,” losing control, or even facing parts of your identity can become massive triggers that keep people far from the healing they actually crave.

🧠 Inside this episode:

• Why people fear therapy—and how that fear is often a direct trauma response

• How vulnerability, uncertainty, and identity shifts can feel like emotional threats

• Why some believe it’s “easier” to avoid than to feel

• The myth that therapy makes things worse before they get better—and how that belief is keeping you from transformation

• How unhealed trauma convinces you it’s safer to suffer in silence than to change

• Gav’s journey through breathwork and subconscious healing—and what finally helped him lean in

This episode is a beautiful blend of the masculine and feminine healing perspectives, and a powerful invitation to rethink what it means to face your trauma. Whether you’re a seasoned inner work devotee or just dipping your toes into therapy, this one will land deeply.

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