Why Do I Blame Myself For Everything?

Episode 24: Why Do I Blame Myself for Everything? Trauma, Self-Gaslighting & the Illusion of Control
In this powerful episode of The Trauma Queen, Jessica Ella takes you straight into one of the most insidious patterns of unhealed trauma: self-blame. If you've ever found yourself saying “Maybe it was my fault,” or turning your own pain into a personal failure, this conversation will hit home.

Jess breaks down how trauma, particularly from toxic relationships or emotional abuse, conditions us to believe that blaming ourselves is safer than naming the real source of the hurt. We internalise the blame to protect the connection—even if it costs us our own identity and truth.

🔥 In this episode, you’ll explore:

• What self-gaslighting really is—and how it becomes a trauma survival strategy

• How blaming yourself gives a false sense of control in situations where you actually felt powerless

• The role of emotional wounds and fear of rejection in keeping you stuck in shame

• How triggers and relational dynamics from childhood teach you to distrust your perception

• Practical tools to rebuild self-trust, validate your feelings, and finally stop taking the fall for everything

This episode is a wake-up call for every brave woman still carrying the weight of things that were never hers to hold. If you’re tired of shrinking, silencing yourself, and blaming yourself for other people’s behaviour—this is your moment to step into truth, clarity, and healed self-worth.

💫 Ready to break free from the cycle of self-blame? Start here: https://linktr.ee/jessellaainsworth