Why Do I - Red Flags Episode

Episode 28: Dating Red Flags – Trauma Responses, Gut Feelings & What They’re Really Telling You
In this brutally honest and surprisingly funny episode of The Trauma Queen, Jessica Ella and guest Steph J dive into the minefield of dating red flags—from the obvious to the deeply trauma-triggered. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your gut or wondering if you’re overreacting, this conversation will help you decode what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Jess and Steph share their own red flags, including emotional shutdowns, avoidant tendencies, and past patterns rooted in unhealed trauma. Together, they explore how both your body and your dating history hold clues about your emotional wounds, and how red flags are often not just signs about the other person—but about the identity you’ve built in love and survival.

🚩 What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Red flags that are actually trauma responses in disguise—yours or theirs

• Audience-submitted icks: from “crazy eyes” to unsolicited sexual comments

• When someone talks about their ex too much, what it might be masking

• Why cockiness, dishonesty, or lack of friendships may be deeper identity wounds or emotional immaturity

• Tools to differentiate between genuine red flags and trauma triggers from your past

• How to practice “abundance dating” to shift from anxious patterns to empowered presence

This episode is a no-shame zone for anyone learning how to date while healing. You’ll walk away with real tools to navigate red flags—not from fear, but from clarity, nervous system awareness, and deep self-respect.

💫 Ready to date with more power, intuition, and self-trust? Tune in now: https://linktr.ee/jessellaainsworth