Why Can't I Say No?

Episode 3: People Pleasing, Trauma & the Fear of Being Too Much
In this powerful episode of The Trauma Queen, we shine a light on the trauma behind people pleasing—a survival response rooted in emotional wounds, abuse, and the deep fear of being rejected, unloved, or "too much."

If you’ve ever said yes when your body screamed no, or felt crushed by the pressure to keep everyone happy, this episode is your wake-up call. Jessica Ella explores how complex trauma shapes your nervous system to associate safety with approval, and how these patterns—driven by unhealed trauma—keep you stuck in a cycle of resentment, exhaustion, and self-abandonment.

You’ll learn what triggers this behavior, how it ties into your core identity, and how to begin reclaiming your voice, boundaries, and truth so you can feel healed, authentic, and free. This is a brave conversation every recovering people-pleaser needs to hear.

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